Our brains are incredibly powerful. As we go through life we have experiences, life events and other people’s influences that have all fed into our subconscious mind. Our current behaviours have been modeled on what we saw growing up:
0 to 7 years is where we imprint
7 to 14 years is when model our behaviours
14 to 21 is where we learn our socialisation skills are developed
Moreover, with all this mind… Our brains then use deletion, distortion and generalisation to either fight, flight or freeze (behaviours). Which sometimes protects us, but can often hinder us.
Brain training – NLP
N = Neuro is the physical components as well as the mental and emotional components of our neurology.
L = Linguistic is the language that we use, and more specifically, how we communicate with others and ourselves.
P = Programming is the way our past experiences, thoughts and emotions affect all areas of our lives.
Cause & effect: Putting your focus more on the “How” in place of “why” is the basic goal of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). It’s very practical with the aim of training you to be in charge of your own mind, the way you think, your views towards past and present events, and mostly your approach towards life.
Brain Training – CBT
Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) is a talking therapy that can help you manage your mindset by changing the way you think and behave. CBT is based on the concept that your thoughts, feelings, physical sensations and actions are interconnected, and that negative thoughts and feelings can trap you in a vicious cycle.
Leaves on a stream:
(1) Sit in a comfortable position and either close your eyes or rest them gently on a fixed spot in the room.
(2) Visualize yourself sitting beside a gently flowing stream with leaves floating along the surface of the water. Pause 10 seconds.
(3) For the next few minutes, take each thought that enters your mind and place it on a leaf… let it float by. Do this with each thought – pleasurable, painful, or neutral. Even if you have joyous or enthusiastic thoughts, place them on a leaf and let them float by.
(4) If your thoughts momentarily stop, continue to watch the stream. Sooner or later, your thoughts will start up again. Pause 20 seconds.
(5) Allow the stream to flow at its own pace. Don’t try to speed it up and rush your thoughts along. You’re not trying to rush the leaves along. You are allowing them to come and go at their own pace.
(6) If your mind says “This is dumb,” “I’m bored,” or “I’m not doing this right” place those thoughts on leaves, too, and let them pass. Pause 20 seconds.
(7) If a leaf gets stuck, allow it to hang around until it’s ready to float by. If the thought comes up again, watch it float by another time. Pause 20 seconds.
(8) If a difficult or painful feeling arises, simply acknowledge it. Say to yourself, “I notice myself having a feeling of boredom/impatience/frustration.” Place those thoughts on leaves and allow them float along.
(9) From time to time, your thoughts may hook you and distract you from being fully present in this exercise. This is normal. As soon as you realize that you have become sidetracked, gently bring your attention back to the visualization exercise.
Coaching that works around you
As a Professional Development Coach, I am qualified and experienced in two neuroscience-based and therapeutic coaching techniques: Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT).
This is in addition to my knowledge and experience with more traditional coaching practices as a Certified Professional Coach. Together these provide the tools to gain deep insight and understanding of your mindset and the way you think and show up in the world. You will easily be able to apply all the techniques we work on, in your day to day life.
To find out more, book your virtual coffee with me: HERE
Which, unlike other helping professions such as the Nursing and Midwifery Council (NMC) regulates nurses, midwives and nursing associates. And The UKCP is the leading professional body for the education, training, accreditation and regulation of psychotherapists and psychotherapeutic counsellors.
A regulatory body is responsible for formulating and enforcing laws that protect the safety of patients/clients and set basic quality standards.
The coaching industry, in a way does have a regulation (of sorts) via International Coaching Federation (ICF). After 25 years, the ICF has evolved to become the hub for all things coaching. They are a membership organisation for trained professional coaches. And are seen as the gold-standard in the industry.
Many people call themselves coaches. Yet, some have never been trained by a credentialed coach and course.
This is a concern.
a) Due to the lack of regulation the quality of coaching will vary. This also means, the results will vary too.
b) In addition, as we have seen in The Guardian article, the lack of regulation is now giving the coaching profession a bad name as well as a poor reputation.
c) What is MOST alarming is exploitation of clients. Charging clients ridiculous amounts of money for uneducated coaching which doesn’t give sustainable results.
However, coaching is transformational & crucial to development.
The ICF defines coaching as ‘partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential.’
Moreover, Coaching is a conversation. What makes the conversation different is the impact it has on the person being coached. An effective coaching session challenges, guides and encourages. And aids client understanding, learning, behaviour and progression.
Working collaboratively at the same pace.
Conversations with purpose.⠀
Breaking new ground which can be challenging yet encourages a deeper conversation (& outcome). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Change the way you think (e.g. remove limiting beliefs that could be holding you back). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Coaching is not: Mentoring, Counselling, Training, Management and Consulting. These are very different things.
When looking for a coach, here is what you need to know.
Be prepared to interview a number of professional coaches. Review their background and experience. Check out their qualifications. A good starting point is to identify whether the coach has been accredited by the International Coaching Federation (ICF), EMCC or AC.
In addition to this, don’t be shy in asking for testimonials. Reviewing their LinkedIn pages and checking out other social media profiles like Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. You can also ask to see proof of insurance and even look them up on Companies House.
If you can’t afford the programme or feel you are being pressured into signing up – the coach isn’t for you.
Furthermore, when looking for a coach, use this checklist:
Authentic Social Media Presence.
I am currently undertaking a Professional Coaching Diploma with Full Circle Global. Specialising in Career Development, Full Circle Global are approved by the International Coaching Federation (ICF) as a training provider.
With this qualification, I became a member of the ICF Gold Standard Coaching Body, where I am working towards gaining ACC level accreditation.
In addition, I also have a Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) Practitioner & Coaching qualification accredited by NLP Association of Excellence. Additionally, I have a Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) diploma which was awarded by Renaissance Therapy.
You’re at a stage in your life where you feel trapped, stagnant, bored yet overwhelmed. You started 2021 with good intentions. You set-out to achieve your resolutions but, by mid-January you gave up and just threw the towel in. Oh dear…
You are frustrated at yourself that yet again you haven’t achieve your goals, dreams and aspirations.
You may have plan to:
Apply for a promotion?
Get back on the dating scene?
Start a business..
… a blog…
… a podcast.
However that demon of self-sabotage creeps in, telling you, you can’t, you are failure and one slip-up smacks you in the face. Ouch!
I get it. You bury your head in the sand – but where does that get you?
THIS IS WHERE THE 4 DAY TRANSFORMATIONAL GROUP COACHING COURSE COMES IN.
I know, it’s difficult to make a drastic change to your already embedded daily routines. However, that’s where the Transformational Goal Setting Group Coaching can help you succeed — by establishing your true goal, breaking down your larger goal into smaller, more manageable steps then creating actions to propel you forward that you can implement over a longer time period until your goal is slowly achieved, embedded and you are transformed.
Over the last few months I have been doing a few group coaching sessions around transformational goal setting as part of my business along side my 1-2-1 clients.
The feedback has been so heart warming and I have seen amazing growth and improvement in every individual I have worked with.
I know that this model works!
I want that for you too!
This is why I have launched the group coaching. The first cohort will be in May and I will be hosting the coaching via zoom so I can interact with all individuals. I will be limiting the spaces to 10.
Monday 3rd May to Thursday 6th May. The sessions will be for 1 hour + in the evening – At 7pm BST.
The agenda and outcomes: Create a strong transformational goal Build stepping stones towards that goal Embed actions Build in sustainable methods to keep you on track.
Throughout the session we will also explore Your blockers Confidence building Reframing And anything else that comes up for you.
Still not sure? Perhaps not too sure on my approach. Why don’t you take a look at my Instagram Coaching Series to check out my coaching skills.
What is Transformational Coaching?
Careers in Psychology states: “As children, teenagers, and young adults, many of us had big plans for the rest of our lives. These dreams are usually unique to every individual. For example, some dreamed of starting a family, some dreamed of having successful careers, and some dreamed of having both.
Unfortunately, as we get older, some people will take a good look at their lives and realize that not everything went according to plan. Many times, life gets in the way. Somewhere between each mundane yet necessary daily task, they got turned around on their intended path in life. A person’s attitude and perception of himself, however, also usually plays a part in this. Because of this, changes in attitude are often very helpful for transforming their lives and getting back on track.
Transformational coaching is similar to life coaching. It involves helping people bettering themselves and their lives by bringing about necessary changes. Instead of changing how they act, however, as with life coaching clients, transformational coaching clients work on changing the way they see themselves. This might involve changing their self-image, or perceptions about themselves and their limitations.
Individuals seeking a transformational coaching career should have a few important characteristics. First of all, they should be veritable expert in both verbal and non-verbal communication. They should also be motivational, inspirational, understanding, and non-judgmental.”
When we describe something as ‘transformational,’ we’re talking about something that produces a big change in or performance improvement to a situation.
Transformational coaching is a way of working with a client that moves beyond the surface of the presenting topic. It fundamentally impacts on all of ‘who you are’. It enables people to have a different relationship with themselves in how they see, think, feel and behave in situations as well as in their interactions with others.
Behaviour shifts are important if coachees are to sustain the changes identified in the coaching session; however, we believe long term, sustainable change occurs when an individual looks at a challenge or situation with a different mindset.
Transformational coaching – coaching that works at the level of beliefs, values, identity and purpose – is likely to create this long-term change.
Fundamentally the coachee will experience the change in the coaching session through the experience of an energetic / embodied shift.
Do you want to create opportunities with a personal brand?
A personal brand is what people say about you when you are not in the room.
It is also the grativas you have when you enter that same room.
It is more than the conscious and intentional effort to create and influence public perception. Personal branding is positioning yourself as an authority in your industry. It elevating your credibility. It is how you are differentiating yourself from the colleague next to you. All this to ultimately advance your career, network, making a larger impact to your industry and creating your own opportunities.
Your personal brand should be about being authentic, showing up consistently and empowering yourself and others.
Believe it or not, but you already have a personal brand (of sorts) which you have been building overtime. Take a look at your feedback from PDPs over the years, what do you notice? Both good and bad.
‘Good communicator?’ ‘Often doubts herself?’ – It has been there right in front of you all this time. Is it what you expected? Is it good, great, excellent or needs improvements? Does it give you opportunities or is it hindering you?
In Your Words
Working on YOU, well, it is an ongoing process of developing and maintaining a reputation. But first you need a foundation.
Whereas some self-help practices focus on self-improvement, personal branding defines success within your career.
Your personal brand is how you promote yourself. It is the unique combination of skills, experience, and personality that you want (and need) the world to see. It is the telling of your story. Sharing your narrative. And, the impression people gain from your reputation.
The key to your professional success as it revolves around how you present yourself. It gives you the chance to emphasise your strengths and passions to help set you apart from everyone else and make sure that people see you in the way you want them to see you. It also helps people to feel as if they know you better which helps to increase your trustworthiness (even if they have not even met you in person).
ACE Personal Brand
Being authentic matters. Although a great place to start is by doing research, reviewing how others show up to the world. It is important that you uncover your own overarching personal brand and image! Aim to get the big-picture clarity on who you truly are and where you would like to be.
Underlying consistency is the secret behind creating a successful personal brand. Consistently showing up at work, online and with friends will start to build that ‘what people say when you are not in the room.’
Empowering yourself will create the opportunities. Once you know who are, where you are going and what people say – be ready for the opportunities that will be coming your way.
In conclusion, this is about your reputation. Each interaction you have with others has the opportunity to create a memorable experience, teaching them what they can expect from you. When you’re consistent in delivering those experiences, you build a strong reputation. Delivering your brand clearly and consistently across a wide audience helps open doors to opportunities. Your brand becomes your personal calling card—a unique promise of value; a distinct and authentic representation of you. In building your personal brand, you will define your individuality, maximise your strengths and manage your choices now to create future opportunities.
10 questions to get you started
What are my values?
List of strengths?
What are the things I am interested in?
Why should someone hire me?
Where do I need to approve on?
What object could I use to give a visual to my meaning?
What other brands do I like? Why?
What brands do I hate? Why?
If someone looked at your LinkedIn page, what would they know about you?
Does how you dress mirror who you are?
ACE Personal Brand Coaching Programme
Together, we will uncover your true personal brand, reveal your goals and create an authentic, consistent and empowering personal, powerful, purposeful brand!
The programme is designed to help you uncover your overarching personal brand and image! The aim is to get the big-picture clarity on who you truly are and where you would like to be, so we can build a strong and powerful ACE Personal Brand.