I am the most unhappy when I am trying to conform.
☹️ Finding a niche because everyone told me that I had to.
☹️ Dressing in black, white and grey – because “pink isn’t very professional”
☹️ Getting depressed because the MBA prices are ridiculously expensive and actually don’t offer any more than I already know.
☹️ Trying to be someone else, because someone told I am too “aggressive” “sensitive” “ambitious” !!!
Can you relate?
I decided to open up to a friend of mine and explain how I have been feeling. I told her that I had my fringe cut and I hated it, I didn’t know what to wear and I wanted to do further education, but I hated doing my degree… the list went on.
She said “But you are different Lucy. That’s why people are drawn to you. You stand out whilst everyone blends in”
I let that sit and percolate … I then took this to my coaching session.
“Can I offer you a reflection Lucy?” my coach said.
“Of course” I replied
“Have you noticed that when you are trying to conform, it has an impact on your mental health?”
Since then, I have took stock of who ‘Lucy’ really is. And actually, being different is my USP. Being authentic, is what’s needed.
And by accepting and acknowledging that… I am feeling pretty darn happy. 😁