Investing in coaching, things you need to know

Investing in coaching, things you need to know

Have you ever wondered what coaching is all about?

The demand for coaching has grown in recent years and continues to do so. To start with, I want to ask you a question – What is your understanding of coaching?

The ICF (International Coaching Federation) defines coaching as ‘partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential.’

Thus, coaching is a conversation, or a series of conversations, that one person has with another. What makes the conversation different is the impact the conversation has on the person being coached. An effective coaching conversation challenges, guides and encourages someone’s understanding, learning, behaviour and progression.

Coaching is:⠀

  • Working collaboratively at the same pace.
  • Conversations with purpose.⠀
  • Breaking new ground which can be challenging yet encourages a deeper conversation (& outcome).

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Coaching can:⠀

  • Go deep.
  • Identify possibilities.
  • Change the way you think (e.g. remove limiting beliefs that could be holding you back). ⠀⠀

Coaches are great in identifying when a client can be shying away from the wider picture and pointing out (with the client’s permission) any limiting beliefs that may be keeping them back from achieving what they want. A good coach will push individuals to the limits and will help them grow and get what they really want out of their life as a whole.

As an individual, you may work really hard in your life, however at some point we all hit certain walls and have blind spots. A good coach can help you recognise and address them.

Unfortunately, the coaching industry is not as regulated as other “helping” professions such as, therapy and NHS Mental Health related support. Many people call themselves coaches but they have no idea what coaching is and some have never been trained by a credentialed coach and course. This can be problematic, as due to the lack of such regulation, the quality of coaches will vary as well as give the coaching profession a bad name and reputation.

So, when looking for a coach, be prepared to interview a number of professionals, review their background and experience, and check out their qualifications. A good starting point is to identify whether the coach has been accredited by the International Coaching Federation (ICF). Don’t be shy in asking for testimonials, reviewing their LinkedIn pages and checking out other social media profiles like Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. You can also ask to see proof of insurance and even look them up on Companies House.

While the coach is not your colleague, friend or mentor, they will support and help you to succeed and reach your desired goal. The right coach will hold you accountable and challenge you in ways that may feel uncomfortable at times. However, with their support you can grow, learn and succeed. An experience coach will never tell you what to do or even offer advice. Instead, the role of the coach will help you identify your options and come up with the best choices based on the goals you want to achieve.

Coaching is about using the right type of questions. Questions hold the power to cause us to think, create answers from ourselves, that we believe in and act on our ideas. Asking questions moves us beyond passive acceptance of what others say and do. Questions honour you as a person and communicate your values as an equal.

It is important to note, that coaching is confidential, safe and is proven to work.

Do you ever find yourself thinking: “there’s got to be more to life than this” or “I’ve tried everything to make my career a success, but nothing’s working” or “there’s something holding me back and I don’t know what it is,” – Does any of this sound familiar?

Perhaps you feel a little overwhelmed, from having too many options as to what to do next, or mastered the art of procrastination, not knowing how to get started or you may lack the confidence to take action to achieve your dreams. This tends to happen when there is a misalignment between what you want at the conscious level and the unconscious patterns, beliefs, behaviours, habits and programs that are running in the background.

On the surface, you are saying “I want to do THIS” but underneath, the unconscious mind is doing everything in its power to prevent the “this” from happening.

Mindset coaching will help uncover the beliefs, blocks, behaviours, habits and patterns of thinking that is preventing you from living the life or creating the career you desire.

As a Career & Mindset Coach I am qualified and experience in two neuroscience-based and therapeutic techniques: Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT).

This is in addition to my knowledge and experience with more traditional coaching practices as a certified Professional Coach. All this together, are the tools to gain deep insight and understanding of your mindset and the way you think and show up in the world. All techniques that we work on together, you will easily be able to apply in your day to day as they are designed to shift perception, change minds and therefore change lives.

The Career & Mindset Coaching programmes are designed around you. They are accessible, flexible and affordable. I’ve made sure of that.

Career & Mindset Coaching with me provides you with the dedicated time, space and effort to sit with a ‘neutral’ someone and your aspirations, analysing and working together to really define your Career & Mindset steps and creating an action plan to help you achieve them.

Clients have gained direction, focus, and confidence from working with me, leaving them less overwhelmed and confused about the future of their career. By exploring your values, personality, drivers and strengths, you can move forward with your career armed with tools and techniques to continue to thrive.

The starting fees, take into account my breath of knowledge and experience, coaching qualifications as well as the incredible value and life-long benefits that coaching provides. Coaching sessions are not a quick fix but an investment of time, commitment, energy, and accountability towards your future, and how it turns out.

  • First coaching session can be up to 2 hours
  • Remaining sessions are between 1 hour to 1 hour 30 minutes
  • Each session is tailored around you
  • Sessions can be via phone call, video call or face to face

Signing up to Career & Mindset Coaching with me is your first step in taking charge of your future, and carving out a happy, fulfilling, and successful career and mindset. You’ve got this!

Change

Change

Last year, became a year of change. From new routines, altered shopping habits and different ways of socialising. We were all forced to embrace change and still continue to ride a change wave in 2021…

In this article, I explore how change can impact organisations, people and provide knowledge to those who are interested in this subject or are going through an organisational change or even a career change.

What is change?

In simple terms, change is to make or become different. Or replace/exchange something. Change is the situation such as to move house, to wear something different or to do a different job. It is about doing things differently, seeing things in a new way, as well as adjusting and adapting to ideas.

There key factors to take into consideration when it comes to change are:

  • Change affects everyone differently; there is no “normal.”
  • Change is an essential element of the world and it must be accepted. (Even a Pandemic World type-of-change)
  • Adapting to change is about the attitudes we have.
  • We have to grieve for what we are letting go of.
  • Change is an opportunity for self-motivation and innovation.
  • We can identify strategies for accepting and implementing our changes

How does change impact organisations and its people?

When applying change to an organisation, a quote from William Bridges springs to mind: ‘It isn’t the change that do you in. It’s the transition’

Let’s look at a really simple example to explain change to an organisation: Change is a new mobile phone (say from basic phone to a smartphone). Transition is learning how to use it.

With the new smartphone, you will be excited by the newness, the style, things you can do, the apps and pictures as well as the productivity.

However you are also a little anxious and uncertain – what if you don’t know how to use it properly? What if all your contacts are not there? What if I download the wrong app?

It is about addressing how that change will affect you. When applying change at an organisation, like the new mobile phone example, it is about covering all bases and knowing whatever the change you put in place, you will need a transition period to ensure maximum results.

Three phases of the change

There are three phases, which was established by William Bridges who believes, that changes isn’t necessarily the problem; the change is the situation. People have difficulty with the transition.

The transition isn’t optional and we must all go through the three stages to accommodate ourselves to any change:

Endings

All change begins with an ending. This first phase of change transition begins when people identify what they are losing something and then to learn how to manage these losses. They determine what is over and being left behind, and what they will keep. These may include relationships, processes, team members or locations.

What do you need let go of? What will you be keeping?

Neutral Zone

This is a time to complete endings and begin new patterns. The second step comes after letting go: the neutral zone. People go through an in-between time when the old is gone but the new isn’t fully operational. It is a time to support others. It is the very core of the change transition process. This is the time between the old reality and sense of identity and the new one. People are creating new processes and learning what the new roles will be, but it’s in a state of change and doesn’t feel comfortable yet. To perhaps plant the seed for the new beginning.

What new habits or processes are you putting into place?

Beginnings

It has been said that organisations think about beginnings long before people do. There is often conflict between the companies motivation and the critical mass/ people to make it happen, so it is essential to get people involved, especially those who are leaders and can of course influence. At this stage, Beginnings involve new understandings, new values and attitudes. Beginnings are marked by a release of energy in a new direction – they are an expression of a fresh identity. Well-managed transition allows people to establish in new roles with an understanding of their purpose, the part they play, and how to contribute and participate most effectively. They are reoriented and renewed.

How is your new beginning better than before?

Let’s look at the Change curve model

The Kubler-Ross Change Curve, something you have probably seen before. It is used across businesses globally showing the 5 stages of emotional response to change, which are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. This model was introduced by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in a book called ‘Death and Dying’ – After publication the model was widely accepted and it was found that it was valid in a majority of cases and situations relating to change.

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In the times we live in right now this change curve seems more than applicable. The entire world are on it and at different points on any given day.

Here is an example of how we are all currently going through the change curve:

  • Shock – “OMG, Are we really living through a global pandemic??”
  • Denial – “We will back in the office in no-time”
  • Frustration – “I am so over lockdowns. I want to go back into work. I want to go out and socialise.”
  • Depression – “I’m so upset, I just want to be back at work, I am so stressed there is so much to do and my company have invoked a recruitment freeze, so I can’t get support for my team.”
  • Experiment – “Working from home is still happening for the foreseeable future, let’s think about what’s not working and try out new approaches. Instead of working on the sofa, I will buy a desk and set up a mini office in my spare room.”
  • Decision – “With my new desk and attitude, I got a lot more done today!”
  • Integration – “After lockdown I may now even ask to work from home more often!”

Does any of this resonate with you? Where are you in the change curve?

Did you know that you could be on one change curve or several. Here are the most common changes we are experiencing:

  • Remote working
  • Home schooling
  • Job insecurity
  • Furlough
  • Financial insecurity 
  • Role change 

Feelings of shock, denial, and frustration are all natural responses as we seek to resist change. This is normal since change means loss. But as we begin to acknowledge what we have lost and begin to feel sadness or depression about it we are then moving closer to acceptance.

What next?

Well that is up to you. If you are going through change now or the next time you go through change both personally and professionally, here is an exercise that you can use to help understand where you are and support yourself on the journey:

  1. Write out your change “problem” statement.
  2. Draw your curve(s) and ask yourself , where am I on the curve right now?
  3. Ask yourself, the 5 whys around your feelings (there is no wrong answer).
  4. Next, think about support: who can I talk to about where I am on it?
  5. When you are ready, start to put steps in place to help you move along your change curve.

For time and the world do not stand still. Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or the present are certain to miss the future. – JFK

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Free Coaching

Free Coaching

Starting Monday 1st March 2021 – I am hosting a Coaching Series via Instagram. This will be a 6 week series occuring every Monday from March 1st at 08:30am GMT

⌚️Duration: up to 30minutes

Agenda:
🍍Monday 1st March: Being true to yourself
🍍Monday 8th March: Fear of Failure
🍍Monday 15th March: Building Resilience
🍍Monday 22nd March: Personal Branding
🍍Monday 29th March: Getting unstuck (in this current climate)
🍍Monday 5th April: Self-Management and Sustainability

📲Requirements: Instagram account or access to an Instagram.

Make sure you are following me on Instagram -🚀thelucygrimwade: https://lnkd.in/dXyUdAv

This is so you will be notified when I am going live. Alternatively, I can send you a meeting invite so it is in your diary.

☕️ Anything else: This a free live event. No need to sign up and if you can’t make 8:30 start, the video will be available for you to catch up on.

So… No matter your age, career level, stage of life or gender – everyone is welcome. Bring a pen, paper and be ready to be coached!

(The pineapple is a symbol of welcome, warmth and hospitality)

What is coaching?

What is coaching?

Have you ever wondered what coaching is all about?

The demand for coaching has grown in recent years and continues to do so. To start with, I want to ask you a question – What is your understanding of coaching?

The ICF defines coaching as ‘partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential.’

Thus, coaching is a conversation, or a series of conversations, that one person has with another. What makes the conversation different is the impact the conversation has on the person being coached. An effective coaching conversation challenges, guides and encourages someone’s understanding, learning, behaviour and progression.

Coaching is:⠀

  • Working collaboratively at the same pace.
  • Conversations with purpose.⠀
  • Breaking new ground which can be challenging yet encourages a deeper conversation (& outcome). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Coaching can:⠀

  • Go deep.
  • Identify possibilities.
  • Change the way you think (e.g. remove limiting beliefs that could be holding you back). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Coaching is not: Mentoring, Counselling, Training, Management and Consulting. These are very different things.

“Problems cannot be solved by the same level of thinking that created them.”

Albert Einstein

These words can hold some importance, especially for those of us who currently feel a bit stuck, need a new approach, a change in direction, find a purpose, or are not getting the results they want. When faced with such situations, working with a coach can help clients make significant changes in their life, and start to achieve the results they desire.

Coaches are great in identifying when a client can be shying away from the wider picture and pointing out (with the client’s permission) any limiting beliefs that may be keeping them back from achieving what they want. A good coach will push individuals to the limits and will help them grow and get what they really want out of their life as a whole.

As an individual, you may work really hard in your life, however at some point we all hit certain walls and have blind spots. A good coach can help you recognise and address them.

Unfortunately, the coaching industry is not as regulated as other “helping” professions such as, therapy and NHS Mental Health related support. Many people call themselves coaches but they have no idea what coaching is and some have never been trained by a credentialed coach and course. This can be problematic, as due to the lack of such regulation, the quality of coaches will vary as well as give the coaching profession a bad name and reputation.

 So, when looking for a coach, be prepared to interview a number of professionals, review their background and experience, and check out their qualifications. A good starting point is to identify whether the coach has been accredited by the International Coaching Federation (ICF). Don’t be shy in asking for testimonials, reviewing their LinkedIn pages and checking out other social media profiles like Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. You can also ask to see proof of insurance and even look them up on Companies House.

While the coach is not your colleague, friend or mentor, they will support and help you to succeed and reach your desired goal. The right coach will hold you accountable and challenge you in ways that may feel uncomfortable at times. However, with their support you can grow, learn and succeed. An experience coach will never tell you what to do or even offer advice. Instead, the role of the coach will help you identify your options and come up with the best choices based on the goals you want to achieve.

Coaching is about using the right type of questions. Questions hold the power to cause us to think, create answers from ourselves, that we believe in and act on our ideas. Asking questions moves us beyond passive acceptance of what others say and do. Questions honour you as a person and communicate your values as an equal.

It is important to note, that coaching is confidential, safe and is proven to work.

I will end this piece, with how I started. By asking you a question – (and now you know about coaching…) What would you do, if you knew you couldn’t fail? What would you try to achieve?

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Would you like to find our more about coaching? Maybe a little bit about me? Or perhaps you are just intrigued. You can schedule a virtual coffee with me or visit my website www.lucygrimwade.com

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How to overcome the career slump

How to overcome the career slump

Do you get that MONDAY MORNING FEELING?

I am talking about the ‘urgh ‘😖 as you roll over to turn off your alarm. The lack of motivation, something I like to call the ‘can’t evens’ 😞 and, perhaps worst of all, the ‘I hate my job’ is turning into ‘FMLs’ and ‘I hate my life’

… and, did I mention, it is Wednesday?

In fact, you have the MONDAY MORNING DREAD daily, Monday to Friday and then the Sunday BLUES!

The truth is, you spend most of your life working. So, don’t you deserve to be in a career that fulfils your values, abilities and aspirations? Have a mindset that propels you, instead of hinders you?

Now for some harsh truths – being unhappy, unfulfilled and underpaid in your career will over time manifest itself into something pretty ugly.  It will start to impact other aspects of your life, from your relationships to your mental wellbeing to the ability to step up in other areas, such as travel and buying a house.

I get it. You bury your head in the sand and hope for the best. But where does that get you?

In this article I take you through the areas that you can explore to pull yourself out of the CAREER SLUMP, so you can propel yourself forward – turning the CAREER SLUMP into a CAREER SLAY! (Well it is December after all…)

Overcome the career slump

We’ve identified what a career slump is – it’s that lack of motivation, struggling to get up in the morning and having that constant nagging feeling that something isn’t quite right. You feel down in the dumps and stuck in the mud.

So how can you overcome the slump?

Time to do some self-reflection

Start by thinking about your current situation – but first take yourself away to a neutral place with no distractions. I’m thinking a Coffee Shop, your bedroom or even your garden. Grab yourself a pen & paper and answer the following questions:

  • What aspects of my job do I enjoy?
  • What aspects of my role, do I just HATE? (Be honest)
  • What needs to change?
  • Who can help me?
  • How could I approach this with my manager?
  • Is there a specific individual that is causing me issues?
  • How do I actually feel about the job?
  • Am I happy with my benefit package?
  • Do I feel fulfilled?
  • How did you feel in other job roles?

It may take you a few days to answer the above, so don’t be put off. Similar to when you journal – let the first words that come to you, flow onto the page. And if you can, once you have gone through the questions, ask a friend or a relative to hear what you have to say – talking about your thoughts and feelings will help clarify the current situation.

Tip: Do you see any themes? Is there something missing? Is there something you can do?

What do you value?

Your values are the things that you believe are important. Both with your personal and professional life. They ideally should determine your priorities and they also act as a good measure to help understand where your life is going. As an insight, when the things that you do and the way you behave matches your values, life is usually great, meaning you’re satisfied and happy. But when these don’t align with your personal values, that’s when things just don’t feel right and you may feel dissatisfied and unhappy.

To find your values start by answering the below questions:

Think about a time when something bothered you. What was it exactly? And Why?

Think about a time when you have been fulfilled and happy. What was the situation? How did you feel?

Think about a time when you have been proud. When was it? What feedback did you receive?

Now start to pull out value words or find value words from answers. (Theses could be: compassion, community, family and independence, see the table below) You ideally should find around 8 to hit the sweet spot.

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This image was taken from Google.

A little something extra to consider: How do your values match up with your managers? Or even organisation? Do they align?

What’s your personality type?

Something else I like to explore with clients, is looking at personality types. Now it is important to not get too hung up on the results however it can be interesting to explore and establish…

I like to use 16 PERSONALITIES The Myers Briggs test consists of 16 possible personality types, and even lists the career you’re suited for based on your type. It is free. It is informative. And results will give you options to do a little deep dive further, if you so wish to.

Fun fact: The 16 personality types were created by Isabel Myers and Katharine Briggs, developers of the MBTI® assessment. Myers and Briggs created their personality typology to help people discover their own strengths and gain a better understanding of how people are different.

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If you are manager of a team or even just work as part of a close collaborative workforce – this will be a great team exercise – as you will be able to understand all your different personality types, how you all like to work and what strengths are in the team.

So how will all this, help you to overcome the career slump?

Doing the exercises above, is a great place to establish who are, how you feel and what you value.

Perhaps you have uncovered that you actually really love your job, the company culture and actually you just need something more challenging. So the action here, well is simple – schedule a 1:1 with your manager and let them know. If this is the case, make sure you go to your boss with an idea of what you could do and how you would approach it.

Maybe you figured out, you are feeling undervalued. You work so hard but there is no recognition. My question to you is, WHAT DOES RECOGNITION MEAN TO YOU? It isn’t always money or time off – it could be a simple ‘well done.’ Once you have figured out the meaning to you, speak with your manager … Now, if you don’t get it from them – it is worth thinking where else you can get it from.

After completing the exercises, you have a ‘OMG’ moment. You realise, oh goodness, you are not in the right job/career/company…

If it is career/job – before you jump ship make sure you explore your options. Is there an opportunity for you to do a different role in your current organisation? Is there someone who can reach out to? How about someone in HR? A different team? A different manager?

If it is everything and the company… and you are not too sure on which direction to go or you might have an idea but not sure how to take it forward – then career coaching is a great option.

And you’re in luck! Because I am a Career & Mindset Coach.

The aim of Career Coaching is to help you understand what you want, the skills you need and how you can develop. As your career coach, I will support you in making these initial step as well as:

  • I will look and focus on the current situation and create action goals to help you move forward.
  • I will assess where you are and encourage and challenge you.
  • Together, we will define outcomes, results and accomplishments.
  • I will never tell you what to do, but will support you through decision making, and give you the time and space to talk about how you’re feelings and establishing your goals.

If you would like to find out more, you can visits the CAREER COACHING page and/or send me an email: coaching@lucygrimwade.com

From SLUMP to SLAY. I hope you have gained some inspiration from this post and found your own way forward.

What is Coaching?

What is Coaching?

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The funny thing is, there was once a time where my opinion of coaching was slightly unsavoury. Conditioned by others with comments thrown at me, like the shady words of ‘those that can’t do, coach.’ And then there was the unknown mindset of ‘isn’t coaching just people paying other people, to be told what to do?’⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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