This week I welcome the first MALE VOICE to the podcast. Dave and I delve into Allyship, cultures and the future of work.
> Allyship is “an active, consistent, and arduous practice of unlearning and re-evaluation, in which a person in a position of privilege and power seeks to operate in solidarity with a marginalized group.” It’s an opportunity for personal growth and community development, as everyone has the capacity to be an ally.
Dave shares his experience and gives advice on how you can become a better ally.
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This is the last episode of the year. I’ll be back next year with fresh content, new guests and an announcement from me.
It has been said that success is often built on strong personal branding — because it immediately tells us who a person is, where they have been, their skills and where they are going. Personal branding isn’t limited to those in the public eye… As a leader it is more important than ever to start to develop your personal brand and make it work for you.
Here are 3 Personal Brands that have inspired me!
Richard Branson is one of the most successful business leaders of our time. As the founder of the Virgin Group, Branson has achieved great success in his business ventures over the course of his career. During this time, he has also managed to develop a powerful reputation for himself. Branson is known for the great lengths he has taken towards generating publicity for the Virgin brand. He also has a reputation for being a sincere and accommodating person. Branson has been protective of the rights of reporters during a crisis. Additionally, he also travels to the site of airline issues in order to comfort passengers and express gratitude to his staff. Over the course of his career, Branson has managed to build a personal brand that portrays him as a fun-loving yet caring individual. While he has received criticism in the past, his success far outweighs his failures.
You can’t deny that Beyoncé is a master in personal branding. She stuck exactly to her brand throughout her career and built it into one of the most dependable and trustworthy personas in the music industry. She grew her personal brand identity from girl band sex symbol to powerhouse feminist. As she grew so did her personal brand. Beyoncé takes her fans on a journey and stands up for what is right…. whilst living her values.
“Oprah Winfrey and her brand Oprah have a net worth of $2.6 billion. The Oprah Winfrey Show was a household name that inspired and helped millions of viewers to live their lives to the fullest. Not many would have predicted the rise of a woman of color when white men dominated the TV industry, but after successfully running for 25 years (it came to a close in 2011), her show still remains the highest-rated daytime talk show in American TV history.
Oprah didn’t conform to the norms of a what being a TV host entailed and won her audience over with her authenticity, honesty, and genuineness. Through her show, she helped many people open up and share their stories, and she did the same. Her ‘Book Club’ (in the show), launched many authors and helped them become bestsellers. She also went on to successfully launch O: The Oprah Magazine and is a dedicated activist for children’s rights. Oprah was awarded the nation’s highest civilian honor, the Presidential Medal of Freedom by then President Barack Obama in 2013.
Personal Branding Message: Oprah Winfrey’s personal brand is being authentic and true to oneself and her viewers. She has been able to engage with and capture audience interest with real, inspiring stories from people her audience could connect with.
Have you ever felt inadequate? Suffered from self-doubt? Felt like you shouldn’t be in the room?
Then you are not alone.
Many women (and men) experience the constant nagging feeling they’re going to be unmasked as a fraud… any… minute… now! This is all despite overwhelming evidence saying otherwise.
It’s a phenomenon that blights humankind– and it is called imposter syndrome.
The term imposter syndrome has wriggled its way into my vocabulary over the last 5 years. Perhaps unsurprisingly since I started to progress further with my purpose and career. I started seeing articles in magazines, adverts on social media and recommended reads on Linkedin… (Oops, I am now adding one to the mix!)
Where the term came from
Psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes coined the term “imposter syndrome” in 1978 when they were studying successful women who believed they were not worthy of their achievements.
A feeling of “phoniness in people who believe that they are not intelligent, capable or creative despite evidence of high achievement.” These people also “live in fear of being ‘found out’ or exposed as frauds.”
The facts and figures
📣 The Independent performed a study which stated it found a third of millennials experience self-doubt at work, with 40% of women saying they felt intimidated by senior people, compared to 22% of men asked.
📣 HR news stated ‘Imposter Syndrome has impacted a whopping 62% of people at work, according to a report by Access Commercial Finance. The survey of over 3000 adults in the UK shows over two-thirds of women (66%) have suffered from imposter syndrome compared to over half of men (56%) within the last 12 months’.
📣 The Telegraph reported that research showed that 28% of working women feel like imposter syndrome has stopped them speaking in a meeting. It also found 21% have been prevented from suggesting a new or alternative idea at work, and 26% have failed to change career or role.
📣 In a WITI article, it stated that research eventually showed a majority of people (70%) will experience imposter syndrome at some point in life, often during transitional times.
Women and Imposter Syndrome
Imposter syndrome is pretty darn serious.
Beyond making you feel like an utter failure, imposter syndrome can limit your career and personal growth. It can lead to other health issues such as burnout, anxiety, depression and emotional exhaustion. Hinder you further with loss of motivation and poor achievement. It can knock careers off-track and also harm team morale and organisational performance through micromanagement, slow decision-making, and perfectionism.
What has been found is that the problem is more common among women and minorities within the workforce.
‘It is crucial to remember that women are not born feeling less-than. But if you are continually treated as though you are, you eventually internalise it. And this is not merely a synonym for low confidence – imposter syndrome is the logical outcome of a world that was never designed for women to be successful. It is time we stopped seeing the problem as being women’s refusal to believe in themselves and rather a world that actively refuses to believe in women’. *The Guardian Yomi Adegoke.
For me, there is a mindset shift needed across all genders. We must all strive to create a world of balance, equality and justice. There is also a view of organisational cultural change: Embodying and implementing Servant Leadership opposed to traditional leadership of hierarchical dictatorship.
Fundamentally, to move on from imposter syndrome we need to change behaviours.
How you can start to overcome imposter syndrome today
Here are my personal top 6 hacks (that I have tried and tested) to overcome imposter syndrome:
1. Start with you.Take time out for yourself and be consistent with regular breaks. Work on your self awareness as well as your physical and mental health. You may want to invest in coaching, mentoring or even join networking groups to build a tribe of support.
2. Find allies both in work and in your friendship circles. When you start using self-doubting language ask your allies to use a code word like ‘pineapple’ 🍍 to bring you back in the room and capture the moment you started to doubt yourself. Perhaps at this point you may want to keep a diary so you can start to build any patterns and recognise any triggers
3. Create empowering beliefs: Try this NLP technique: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
🧠 Think of a belief that would be really useful to have. This is your desired belief. E.g. I am Confident. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
🧠Think of a belief that is absolutely true. E.g. The grass is green.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
💡 When thinking of your true belief get a real picture of what you see, hear and feel.
🧠 Now put your desired belief into the same picture as the absolutely true belief. ⠀⠀
Do this any many times that feel comfortable. How do you feel about your empowering belief? ⠀⠀⠀⠀
4. Ask for feedback. I like to ask for 360 feedback. It is a process where your manager, your peers and direct reports and sometimes even customers can evaluate you. Ask 3 simple questions – What should I start doing? (This will capture what you need to do) What should I stop doing? (This will give you something to work on) and What should I continue to do? (This is your positive feedback that you can save in your brag list).
5. Listen to podcasts, speak to friends, colleagues and family members about Imposter Syndrome. You will be surprised in how many people are willing to share their stories and you will truly realise you are not alone. I obviously recommend listening to: Speak Female Podcast ™️
6. Ally or not – it is time to embrace that mindset shift. It it also time to banish the pink jobs and blue jobs. Set the world and the workplace up for success. You can do this by actively promoting females within, collaborate with your diversity boards and educate yourself by reading, listening to podcasts and watching Tedx talks.
Welcome back to the Speak Female Podcast in this Episode Lucy Grimwade is joined by Tracy James, Abi Douglas and Maryanne Fleming discussing the impact of the pandemic and our relationship with work. From what’s different in terms of how you operate inside and outside of work? What is better or worse? How do you think tech has enabled the ways of working? to the Bums on seats mentality and What challenges have you faced with work? Ending with an offering of a toolbox on how we can continue to work on our relationship with work in this ever changing world.