This week I welcome the first MALE VOICE to the podcast. Dave and I delve into Allyship, cultures and the future of work.
> Allyship is “an active, consistent, and arduous practice of unlearning and re-evaluation, in which a person in a position of privilege and power seeks to operate in solidarity with a marginalized group.” It’s an opportunity for personal growth and community development, as everyone has the capacity to be an ally.
Dave shares his experience and gives advice on how you can become a better ally.
You can connect with Dave via LinkedIn here. You can find me on social media too: LinkedIn, Instagram @thelucytalk and @talkfemalefriday and email me firstname.lastname@example.org
This is the last episode of the year. I’ll be back next year with fresh content, new guests and an announcement from me.
I get asked at least once a week – ‘how do you do it all?’
And every time I get asked this question, I always stumble on the answer. I start to mutter something along the lines of how I don’t have kids yet, then start making excuses for my success and mention that doing things virtually has made things easier…
Then it hit me, why am I apologising?
I do, do a lot. And I do it darn well. Yes zoom has been a huge enabler, but that isn’t why or even how I do it all.
In this blog post I am going to let you in on how I do it all and how you can too.
⚡️ Since reading Robin Sharma’s book – The 5am Club, I have embraced the key learnings. The creative in me designed my own version on elevating my leadership and coaching:
No, I don’t get up at 5am.
And No, I don’t always stick to the rules.
But I do follow the leadership empires. I am huge believer in being self-aware and taking care of myself. For me to be the best for my clients so they can achieve their results, I need to make sure I am healthy, emotionally stable, educated and my inner spirit in nurtured.
⚡️ Who you have in your tribe matters. And gosh, don’t I know it. My partner is incredibly supportive when it comes to my career, ambition and needs. In our household there is no such thing as pink jobs and blue jobs. Just a balance of support, ambition and love.
Someone said to me last week – ‘if you can’t solve a problem with your 5 closest friends, you need to get new ones.’ This is true, over the last 3 to 5 years I have surrounded myself with the right people who I know can help and support me. And, I have parted ways with those who no longer support my growth.
⚡️ I manage my time well: I have a full time job, I coach between 2 to 3 clients a week, I am involved in speaking engagements, I prep/record/edit a podcast, attend or lead networking events, I read lots of books and I write a blog… etc.
I don’t waste time scrolling through Instagram (anymore). I don’t binge watch Netflix. I pre-plan most evening activities e.g. 7pm networking hubs. And, I pick and choose what I do. I no longer feel obligated to attend every single damn networking call. I only attend ones where I can provide value and/or go there with a specific purpose.
Side note: I recommend reviewing this sense of obligation. We are always striving to do more, be more and say more because society is telling us to. But, is that what you want to be doing?
Are you a bad mum because you didn’t bake cookies for the school bake sale? – NO, who doesn’t love M&S buckets?
Are you a bad friend because you rescheduled dinner plans? – Nope.
Are you a bad leader because you didn’t work a 12 hour day? – Hell no, and if you do normally – we need to talk.
➡️ When I start to feel overwhelmed or burnout creeping in (because I have worked on my triggers and I know what to look out for) … I take a break, go for a massage or a walk or journal.
Why I do it all
Someone asked this week – ‘What is your why?’ And wow, what a questions.
The reason I work so hard is because I want to empower, encourage and grow other people. I want to enable others to be the best of versions of themselves. Because I know we all have the potential to be in that top 5% of leadership and the human race.
Oh and whilst I am on the subject of leadership, I am still on a mission to change the face of it.
So my why: Empower and enable others to progress whilst changing the face of leadership.
When I asked the question back, I was blown away with her response: ‘Everyone is welcomed at my table.’ Backed up with a strong story of female empowerment.
Now over to you
We have all seen that saying: ‘You have the same amount of hours as Beyoncé’
I have the same amount of hours in the day as Oprah. And, hell yes I make them count.
What will you start to do with your hours in the day?