Our brains are incredibly powerful. As we go through life we have experiences, life events and other people’s influences that have all fed into our subconscious mind. Our current behaviours have been modeled on what we saw growing up:
- 0 to 7 years is where we imprint
- 7 to 14 years is when model our behaviours
- 14 to 21 is where we learn our socialisation skills are developed
Moreover, with all this mind… Our brains then use deletion, distortion and generalisation to either fight, flight or freeze (behaviours). Which sometimes protects us, but can often hinder us.
Brain training – NLP
- N = Neuro is the physical components as well as the mental and emotional components of our neurology.
- L = Linguistic is the language that we use, and more specifically, how we communicate with others and ourselves.
- P = Programming is the way our past experiences, thoughts and emotions affect all areas of our lives.
Cause & effect: Putting your focus more on the “How” in place of “why” is the basic goal of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). It’s very practical with the aim of training you to be in charge of your own mind, the way you think, your views towards past and present events, and mostly your approach towards life.
Brain Training – CBT
Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) is a talking therapy that can help you manage your mindset by changing the way you think and behave. CBT is based on the concept that your thoughts, feelings, physical sensations and actions are interconnected, and that negative thoughts and feelings can trap you in a vicious cycle.
Leaves on a stream:
(1) Sit in a comfortable position and either close your eyes or rest them gently on a fixed spot in the room.
(2) Visualize yourself sitting beside a gently flowing stream with leaves floating along the surface of the water. Pause 10 seconds.
(3) For the next few minutes, take each thought that enters your mind and place it on a leaf… let it float by. Do this with each thought – pleasurable, painful, or neutral. Even if you have joyous or enthusiastic thoughts, place them on a leaf and let them float by.
(4) If your thoughts momentarily stop, continue to watch the stream. Sooner or later, your thoughts will start up again. Pause 20 seconds.
(5) Allow the stream to flow at its own pace. Don’t try to speed it up and rush your thoughts along. You’re not trying to rush the leaves along. You are allowing them to come and go at their own pace.
(6) If your mind says “This is dumb,” “I’m bored,” or “I’m not doing this right” place those thoughts on leaves, too, and let them pass. Pause 20 seconds.
(7) If a leaf gets stuck, allow it to hang around until it’s ready to float by. If the thought comes up again, watch it float by another time. Pause 20 seconds.
(8) If a difficult or painful feeling arises, simply acknowledge it. Say to yourself, “I notice myself having a feeling of boredom/impatience/frustration.” Place those thoughts on leaves and allow them float along.
(9) From time to time, your thoughts may hook you and distract you from being fully present in this exercise. This is normal. As soon as you realize that you have become sidetracked, gently bring your attention back to the visualization exercise.
Coaching that works around you
As a Professional Development Coach, I am qualified and experienced in two neuroscience-based and therapeutic coaching techniques: Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT).
This is in addition to my knowledge and experience with more traditional coaching practices as a Certified Professional Coach. Together these provide the tools to gain deep insight and understanding of your mindset and the way you think and show up in the world. You will easily be able to apply all the techniques we work on, in your day to day life.
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